A Love Story


Defining roles

Contrary to an enduring popular belief, a couple consisting of two men or two women does not always copy the stereotypical roles of a heterosexual couple. If two women are in a relationship, there is not one that takes the place of the man while the other takes on a more feminine role. The same holds true for two men in a relationship. LGBT people express their feminity or masculinity in a lot of different ways. In this respect, they are no different from heterosexual couples. 

The awakening of love

It is often a love-at-first-sight experience with a person of the same sex that brings a person to an awareness of their homosexuality or bisexuality. It might mark the beginning of their first relationship or their first heartbreak. Although parents are rarely prepared for this type of situation, their love for their children should allow them to support them in their new life.


Sexuality takes a different place and shape in each couple.  Each couple determines their sexual behavior and their commitment to each other. Regardless of the person’s sexual orientation or gender identity, it is important to respect their privacy. So please refrain from intimate questions unless your quite close to that person.


Too often, homosexuality is viewed in a restrictive way in which sexual orientation is reduced to the mere expression of sexuality.

As with heterosexual couples, same sex couples are most often formed around amorous and emotional feelings. Sexuality is certainly part of a lot of relationships, but it's important not to reduce a couple to sexual acts. Relationships are based on so much more!

Engagement, support, mutual assistance, equality, complementarity and sharing of duties are just as important for same-sex couples as they are to heterosexual couples. Couples made up of two women or two men, often experience the same happiness and hardship as couples made up of a man and a woman

Did you know ?

In a study conducted in 2018 in the United Kingdom, more than 2/3 of respondents said they did not hold their same-sex partner's hand in public to avoid a negative reaction from others.

Specific issues


Le droit d'aimer

Only 26 states recognize marriage for same-sex couples. Moreover in 72 states it is still illegal to be homosexual.
Several states recognize legal status for same-sex couples without going as far as marriage. As for religious ceremonies, it is up to the churches to decide on their rule of conduct.
Recognition of the union has a significant impact on the right to receive a pension or inheritance, or to make decisions about the health of our spouse.

Domestic violence

As with heterosexual couples, same-sex couples can experience spousal violence. However, the subject remains very little discussed and many will not seek help for fear of prejudice.

This is even more the case if the person lives in a region where homosexuality is criminalized, because they risk to be arrested if they admits being in a couple with a person of the same sex.


Many LGBT people, alone or in a couple, want to have children, whether by adoption or assisted procreation, and in a small number of countries like Canada, children can have legal parentage with both parents, but this is not the case in most countries.

Same-sex celebrity couples

Many same-sex couples among celebrities have marked history, literature, arts, politics and science in many part of the world and in all period of time. Of these couples, some have remained discreet about their relationship. Others, have claimed their difference and their right to equality.

Amongst those who became models for generations of gays, lesbians and bisexuals, there are: Leonardo da Vinci and Salai, Paul Verlaine and Arthur Rimbaud, Marguerite Yourcenar and Grace Frick, Frida Kahlo and Chavela Vargas, Rock Hudson and Marc Christian MacGinnis, Martina Navratilova and Julia Lemigova, Matthew Mitcham and Lachlan Fletcher, Ellen DeGeneres and Portia De Rossi, George Smitherman and Christopher Peloso, Jodie Foster and Cydney Bernard, Adam Lambert and Drake LaBry.


Survey results

According to our survey, conducted in 2011:

• 2/3 of Canadians (66%) say they have a gay friend

• 21% of Canadians think that a couple made up of two men are not as likely as a heterosexual couple to have a long-term love relationship.

• Overall, almost two-thirds (65%) of Canadians think that the Canadian Parliament's 2005 law authorizing same-sex civil marriage is a good decision, while 23% think it is a bad decision.

• Nearly two-thirds (67%) of respondents would agree to be the godfather or godmother of a child with same-sex parents.



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